YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Try and answer the following questions.

Do it together with your partner …and then discuss it.

  • How do you see your relationship at this moment?
  • Name five good things about your partner?
  • Name five bad things about your partner without judging or critisizing?
  • Mention five good things about your relationship?
  • Name five bad things about your relationship?
  • Say: I am the happiest in our relationship when …..?
  • Answer: I get HURT the most in our relationship when ….?
  • Me and my partner disagree about the following: ….make a list?
  • What did we do at our last blow-out – how did we solve the problem…? Or did we…?
  • What do you need to change in your relationship?
  • What do you expect of your spouse NOW in your present relationship?
  • What is missing from your relationship that you had before?
  • When was the last time you were intimate with your partner? With flirtations? Not just sex.
  • With whom do you share your bed: animals or children?
  • When last did you make breakfast in bed for your spouse…if ever?
  • When last did you bathe your spouse?
  • When last did you make a nice card…not buy one… but actually hand-made one? Not printed from pc.  Hand-made.
  • When last did you spoke about your relationship without fighting about it?
  • What makes you feel that you are loved?
  • What are you going to do this week to let your partner know that you still love her very much…not jut “love her”..!
  • Is your marriage a pain and suffering time or a pleasure and fun peaceful relationship?
  • Describe your partner in ONE word!

 The above questions should be done every month at the last week on a quiet night alone at home.  Each one must answer the questions honestly before the other one without fighting or screaming.  Be honest with your partner:  What do you feel is lacking from your relationship which you had last month that you didn’t have this month, etc.

After discussing, each make a special something to the other to either eat or use that you know he/she will enjoy.  Spend the night together with love and peace and trust the Lord to be part of your relationship, in Jesus Name. 

Shalom. 

(Credits to research of materials included in TRT Marriage counselling Handbook)

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